Cavewoman with a Spear

If early woman had picked up a spear, where would the women’s movement be today? 

Cave woman’s main objectives were berry picking, keeping a nice cave and raising offspring while cave man ran around with his pals, spear in hand chasing mammoth and other beasts.

When cave man returned from the hunt, he surely threw down a slab of meat, said “Ugg”, built a fire and then retired to the cave to make cave drawings.

Meanwhile cave woman tired from gathering things all day, prepped and cooked the meat over an open fire pit, nursed the babies and protected the cave toddlers from the fire and then spent the evening tanning mammoth hide and creating fashionable clothing for the entire family.

Even then, cave man had the better end of the deal, the thrill of the chase, camaraderie, action, and adventure and yes, risk of potential and untimely death – affirmative.

So what if cave woman had picked up that spear?

Well, some would argue: who would have watched the cave babies?

Well, there must have been cave grandma’s and grandpa’s, teenagers, elder aunts and uncles, unable to keep up with the hunt, who could have helped raise the kids.

Bringing the women on the hunt would have meant more hunters, maybe even a slightly different skill set or perspective, potential for bigger and better prey.

Yet, if cave woman died, who would have the babies?  Well, when cave man died, procreation continued.

In addition, one could argue that not every cave woman possessed the desire or endurance to join the hunting party, so there would still be new cave babies born.

During the hunt, would the cave men spend all of their time protecting the cave women and therefore be less productive or at greater risk of death?  Maybe, that was their natural instinct.

Finally, would cave woman be able to protect cave man when necessary?

Consider the following scenario:  while cave man was out on the hunt, cave woman was alone with the cave babies and sometimes a hungry cave bear entered the compound…

Cave Bear in Tuscany
Cave Bear

I would be willing to bet that whenever that happened, cave man returned weary from the hunt, to find bear meat roasting over an open fire pit.

Leisure or Labor?

My first Saturday off in a months, I was looking forward to some R&R or L&L, leisure and laziness, with sleeping in being the first order of business.  Here’s how it went:

  • Woke to son’s smiling face, announcing, “Good morning!  It’s 7 am.”
  • Checked e-mail and twitter
  • Sent a few messages while drinking coffee and chatting with sister-in-law
  • Did dishes
  • Fed cat
  • Showered
  • Went on nature hike with husband and children
  • Lunched out with husband and children
  • Came home and while husband napped, picked up miscellaneous items around the house:  jackets, books, water glasses, etc.
  • Showered again
  • Swept floor but resisted washing it
  • Wiped down appliances and kitchen table
  • Sent a few texts
  • Called a few friends
  • Cleaned daily paw and fingerprints off of glass doors
  • Broke up fight between children and sent them back outside to play
  • Sat on deck, leafing through Writers Digest Magazine
  • Wrote three quick entries (25 words or less) for WD monthly writers prompt
  • Wrote this blog
  • Submitted entries online listed above to WD for your story
  • Read a chapter of a book my friend wrote
  • Had a glass of wine while deciding on what to make for dinner
  • Marveled at my amazing ability to relax

Wishing you a day of R&R made your way!

“Ready, Set, Get Going…

Half Marathon Italy

…because, I know you can run faster than that.”

Don’t you just love internal dialog?  It’s so nurturing.

So I’m back at it, running again after a long break which always feels like starting over, so if you have just begun a resolution routine, I’m right there with you.  I take these long breaks from time to time, ALWAYS regretting it later.

Perhaps you have seen me out there running?  I’m the one looking like the Bionic Woman in the slow motion sequence, na-na-na, na-na-na, you get the picture?  I mean the ORIGINAL Bionic Woman, Lindsay Wagner, as Jaime Sommers, one of my childhood heroes:

Slow motion is better than no motion! 

Today as I was plodding along wondering why I do this, because it actually hurts…I realized that I do get to think more clearly when I’m running than at any other moment of my day.  The ideas flow more easily as oxygen struggles toward my brain, gasping.

My sister shared this on Facebook and it seemed right:

Are we ever done?  I mean as long as we’re still breathing?  Nope.  I keep thinking, when I hit this landmark or this weight or get this mileage under my belt I will have reached my goal, and then what?  Quit?  No way!  Because, you see my dears, the goal keeps moving.  Funny, when I went looking for a photo to insert here, it turns out, “moving the goalpost” is a metaphor, well, what do you know?

So if you stop always pushing forward, well then, do you lose all the ground you have formerly covered or maybe just some of it, provided you get up, dust off the cobwebs and ask yourself, okay it’s a new day, so what’s next?

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Resolvedly Unresolved

Take 0,1,2,3 rearrange = 2013

Ah, a crisp, unwrinkled New Year…so what’s the plan?  All over the globe people are pledging their resolutions for 2013, well, not me.  It’s not that I don’t have anything to fix, it’s just that I cannot see the point in making a bunch of empty promises to myself and to others.

Instead, I’ll do what I do every year and focus on unlocking the key to all of my unresolved issues, like starting new projects before completing the old ones.  Sound familiar?  At the same, I’ll try to give myself some credit for the issues I did manage to resolve in 2012.

For the sake of this exercise, I’ll explore my writing life as it parallels all other aspects of my personal life.


I begin new Novels before completing the old ones.

  • Novel #1 in a perpetual state of semi completion and ‘limbo status’ because I think it needs another rewrite but am so sick of looking at it that it now rests in a cozy “cyber draw”.
  • Novel #2, definitely better than #1 and considerably less narcissistic and entertaining; 80% done for several months now; blaming rest of life for this fact.
  • Novel #3, an excellent first chapter and outline complete.
  • Novel #4, a few characters studies done and plot all in my head.
  • Novel #5, the best idea I have ever had, just thought of it this morning and cannot wait to get started!

Hmmm…okay, what did I do right?

Resolved Issues: 

In order to resolve my writing fears and issues, I came out of the writing closet and:

  • Joined a writers group and religiously attended until the rest of my life got in the way.
  • Attended a writer’s conference and followed some of the advice I gleaned during attendance until the rest of my life got in the way.
  • Started a weekly blog, actually wrote every week, until the rest of my life got in the way. My blog site
  • Created an Author Website and updated it regularly before the rest of my life got in the way. My Author Webpage
  • Started a twitter account and consistently kept up with it, but realized it gets in the way of my writing life. My twitter site

Still unresolved for 2013:  Figure out what’s going wrong in the rest of my life so I can get my writing life back on track, oh and vow to finish something–anything that I’ve started in all prior years combined.

Unresolvedly yours, (& yes I know it’s a made up word.)

Until next time, wishing you all a happy, prosperous and successful New Year!